Thursday, October 18, 2012

dear anonymous,

I was going to wait to write this lovely post, not because I wanted to, but because I should probably wait until I'm not so angry.
If you follow me on facebook or twitter, you probably saw my post earlier yesterday...

"to the person that has time to actually sit down, go through my blog, write nasty comments, and who chooses to stay anonymous...super classy."
 You see, while checking my email yesterday during nap time, I received 7, yes 7, anonymous emails, in a row, all from comments on my blog...but more specifically all of these comments were on my "What is Hudson up to Wednesday" posts. Seven different comments, on the past seven WIHUTW.

These comments were mean, cruel, and completely disgusting...especially because they were personal attacks to me and my little man...

After posting this to Facebook, I received comments that made my laugh and that made me cry:
  
" And nasty mamma bears have wonderful sisters.. That would do anything.. And I mean anything smile so let's all let this wonderful mother continue what she is doing, without those nasty comments. Because not only is she my sister, but Hudson is my nephew.. And now I'm just all fired up." [love my sister!]

"And mama bears have friend mama bears and we'll straight up beat them!! Eww I am so mad Elise!! I love you. Hudson is perfect and Anonymous is ugly, fat and jealous they can't make cute babes like him ." [love my friends]

" Are you kidding me? How pathetic. I think if I caught them I might bitch slap them into next week....just sayin "

With that being said...
smile
Dear Anonymous,
                    If you were looking to get a rise out of me...well congrats, you certainly got it. My mama bear mentality came out in full force yesterday because when you attack my family, you attack and involve me. If you really feel the need to tell me that I'm a horrible mother because I spend "too much time" blogging, that I use my WIHUTW posts to make up for the fact that I'm not spending time with him, and that my mind is not "all in" this "motherhood thing"...shame on you. If telling me that I do his hair in a mohawk because I'm teaching him to hide behind that as he grows up, you are 100% wrong because I'm actually teaching Hudson to be confident, unlike you who seems to be a coward for hiding behind "anonymous". If emailing me a picture that I posted on my blog 6 weeks ago, telling me that I photo-shopped his eyelashes to be longer...honestly?! WRONG. actually H's eyes are just that amazing, and my kid is just the perfect, and you had n o t h in g to do with that [thank goodness]! If asking me not to have other children, because I would be doing them a disservice by not giving them my full attention, well, I just don't think that decision is up to you, now is it?! I don't feel that I should have to justify why I blog, when I blog, and how I blog...but if you must know, I blog during nap time [shocker!]. I blog for me, as my journal.This is my way of keeping family and friends close. If you don't like what I write, don't read it...but to the other hundreds of followers, thank you....I must be doing something right, right?! 
So, pick me apart, shred me to pieces, rip and tear all you want...but when you decide to take it a step further...don't think you won't hear about it. I can promise you, you won't stay anonymous forever. So while you were wasting your time posting mean comments on my blog, I was teaching H how to say "sorry". Something you could probably take some notes on. This little boy is my absolute world, 
 So before you sit down, go through my posts, and take the time to write a comment, remember this mama bear....and her entourage.


 

31 comments:

  1. SERIOUSLY ?!?!?!? what a coward to do it annon.... some people have no class, no respect and are just plain A-holes!!! screw them, you're AWESOME! get em mama bear!

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  2. Well, I'm quite snooty when it comes to the blogs I read and you've been on my flipboard for well over a month, so you made the cut. (I know you were worried, so put your heart at ease) Anyway, my point is this: you're an awesome mom and I admire all you do with and for your son. Some people have nothing better to do than to tear down the good in other people's lives.

    Don't be angry, pray for this person. He/She/it has issues that needs serious medical attention.

    Keep up the great work.

    Sophia

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  3. Ohhh my goodness!! I am so sorry you have had to go through this! I have yet to have my first mean comment on my blog but I am bracing myself for the day that I do, because I know it will happen at some point. There are some very mean and hurtful people in this world, but you just have to stand tall (as you are) and fight back! I am so glad you wrote this and let your feelings towards this person out- I am sure it made you feel a lot better. And I just started following your blog but I can already tell you that I see a WONDERFUL, CARING, mother who does nothing but express this love for her son. Keep blogging, keep writing to Hudson, and keep your head up. You are awesome! So is Hudson!!

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  4. I am a new follower and the first post I read was about your sweet son playing in the rain (which i loved). I am so taken back by how cruel that person was and so very confused as to why they have so much anger against you and your blog. (As a therapist) I would question the state of mind of this anonymous person and their reasoning behind seven hurtful and idiotic posts. Keep being you!

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  5. Ohh my what a mess! Just keep your head up high and try not to focus on the negativity of others. XOXO

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  6. You go girl!!

    www.domesticatedworkingwoman.blogspot.com

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  7. They obviously aren't happy with their own life and feel the need to break you down. Don't let it get to you. Your family is beautiful.

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  8. so crazy that someone would do something like that! good for you on calling them out. just let all that negativity roll off your shoulders-stay positive! love your blog

    www.magsetc.blogspot.com

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  9. Anonymous doesn't have anything to do all day, and should get a life if he has time to read and bash on your blog. (what he said about you blogging-so what a hypocrite) I love you Elise. You are an amazing mom and always will be. Don't let him get you down. We are here for you!! I love your blog and Hudson. Don't worry-people can say things on the internet that they would never say in person. It's just negative and gross. You are so much better than that and we know the truth. So to anonymous I say this: SHUT THE EFF UP AND MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!!!

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  10. Anonymous commenters are cowardice internet trolls looking to bring someone down because they feel bad about themselves. Don't let them get you down! You are gorgeous, real, and a wonderful mother. Anonymous is a nameless coward who needs to get a life! Keep writing girl!

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  11. most people accuse other people what they are guilty of themselves. hopefully they don't have kids cause they would for sure be neglecting them to spend so much time writing stupid crap on your blog. i love being updated on your cute little family and your handsome little man when we are so far away.

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  12. How can someone judge your parenting skills based on your blog? For most of us, a blog is a very small portion of our overall lives. For someone to sit back and say terrible things, especially based off a photograph of a beautiful baby boy is beyond my comprehension. When someone is that ugly to another human being, it is usually because they are lacking something significant in their own lives. I feel sorry for anonymous, he or she must truly have a sad life. You keep doing what you love and don't let anyone shade your sunshine :)

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  13. So proud of the mother you've become to this wonderful little man. No one has more strengh than you, especially to tear you down. I am the one who can attest to how different you are now, since Hudson came into your life. You are the most amazing mother that any child could have, and honestly it surprises me everytime I see you with him. How caring, how protective and how you would do ABSOLUTLY anything for him. You are doing an absolutly amazing job, and just because some jealous monster decided to attack you.. gives you more credibility for being able to jump right back up. Love you sister, Can't wait to see you soon. Bitch Claws may come out to "Anonymous" so prepare yourself..

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  14. Sounds like anonymous is a little jealous... And since when do child-less people get to give parenting lessons.. I, of course, am assuming anon is child-LESS since he/she has all the free time to harass you.. child-ISH, no doubt. Booo for pathetic people!

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  15. First of all, I just found your blog and I love it! Newest follower here! :)
    Second, people can be so hateful! I hate how judgemental non-parents (and even other mommas) can be when it comes to parenting decisions!

    Kari
    ryanandkari.com

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  16. Now I'm your newest follower ;) haha! But seriously, the fact that someone would do that to you is not only disgusting, but sad. I can't believe that some people feel so entitled when really, no one is perfect in the first place, AND I've been a follower for like 2 minutes and I can already tell that you are an incredible mom! Shame on them. I'm really glad you found my blog and said something, because I'm loving yours already!

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  17. Elise, you are strong! Way to be! It's hilarious that "anonymous" even took the time to read, comment, and email you. What does that say about that person? You have all the facebook/twitter mothers supporting you! ;) Keep blogging!!

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  18. Wow! I seriously can not believe people! I would have had a thing or two to say to anonymous if I had noticed any of those comments! You are a great momma and don't let some coward tell you any different!

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  19. Oh my gosh, what some people say to others is truly disgusting. Good old anonymous! They'd never have the actual balls to bring up their 'concerns' to you in person. What a dirt bad. Go you! x

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  20. OMG!! Are you serious?? I cannot believe this person, this is YOUR blog and if they have the time to go through your previous posts and criticise you for blogging too much, they're obviously spending just as much time on the computer too!! I can't believe the nerve of some people, to attack you and your baby with vicious words, you have to wonder how that 'anonymous' person became so bitter in life? They are absolutely unhappy with their own self that the need was within them to abuse someone they clearly are jealoous over. YOU have nothing to be sorry for, keep doing what you're doing Elise. Their nastiness will get them in the end, it will catch up to them!! Their personal issues should not be your burden to carry so hold your chin up high and erase them from your thoughts...Jealousy is a curse, and I hope 'anonymous' reads all of these comments so they can be even more jealous over how many friends you have on your side :) xo

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  21. Oh my goodness! That is crazy. Good for you for standing up to her. It is national bully prevention month after all. And she actually makes me mad! I take offense to that as a fellow mommy blogger.great post. I'm sorry someone hurt you!!!

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  22. Oh my goodness! That is crazy. Good for you for standing up to her. It is national bully prevention month after all. And she actually makes me mad! I take offense to that as a fellow mommy blogger.great post. I'm sorry someone hurt you!!!

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  23. Oh my hell I wanna kill anonymous right now!! I am so sorry that this happened to you. You are the last person that deserves this. Love you girl and if you find out who the coward is let me know so I can go after them!
    XOX
    Ash
    http://abpetite.blogspot.com/

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  24. You go mama! Nicely said! I think you are a great, wonderful, loving, caring mamma to sweet H so never ever let some asshole whom cannot even share who they are get you down, or bother you. The mr & I want a little boy so bad because we both want him to have fohawk & yes I want his ears pierced just like his daddy! Is that crazy? To some maybe yes it is but to others no its not! I think we are all allowed to raise our child how we feel is fit. I want him to know he is loved no matter what & if when older he does not like that his ears are pierced like his daddy then he can take them out if he does not like fohawks then he can wear it another way. I do not think we should have to always 24/7 be with our child I always say that time away is the best thing ever because once you get them back you are so excited & happy because you have missed them but even us as parents have to have us time too :)Your doing a great job mamma! So to mr A if you can see this/read this which fyi I am sure you can! Shut up if you do not have anything nice to say then don't say nothing at all how bout that & that is me being nice to you writing it that way because if it was up to me I would say a lot more then what I just did....

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  25. You have a beautiful family, and TRUST me whoever insulted you and your son are idiots!! There is a name for them, 'trolls'. They are people who insult others online for no apparent reason, they don't add to a conversation...they merely try to get a high off of hurting others. They are sick people with no tact.

    Thank you friend for stopping bye our blog and leaving a lovely comment!!

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  26. I love your blog and you big sexy hair!!
    I am your newest follower, follow back??
    http://www.ashleythefashionguru.blogspot.com
    <3

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  27. oh my goodness ! i just don't understand things/people like this. how scary. someone who does things like that must have a screw loose in their head, and I'm not just saying that, because a normal person wouldn't dedicate all that time to attack one person they don't know, and go as far as emailing a photo of their own child to them with accusations. You are not the only mum who blogs, they could have attacked any one of the millions of mums who blog out there, it just happened to be you. don't let it get to you.
    http://myfroley.blogspot.com

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  28. Good for you! I'm sorry you have to deal with people like that.

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  29. Oh my gosh! I'm just catching up on your blog now but I'm so mad that someone would say those things, ESPECIALLY about your child! Thankfully, my only experience with anon comments is from spammers. I'm so sorry you had to deal with people saying nasty things. That's one of my blogging fears, and why it was hard to really start networking and putting myself out there. But I love the way you handled it. You go, mama bear!! :)

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  30. Oh my goodness. This makes me sick. I'm so sorry you had to deal with this! I am new to the blog world and this is my biggest fear!
    I recently posted our (super cute) chicken coop and another blogger loved it and shared it on her FB pag. I went to go check it out and everyone was bashing g it calling it an outhouse, how I must be rich, that I'm wasteful with my money, in this economy how its selfish, blah blah blah ..... I was hurt! But if they even attempted to start in on my kids id flip out!!!!!! I'M SO SORRY YOU HAD TO DEAL WITH THIS!!!

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